Create your own strong network

Man is the social animal. He needs people around him and he actually wants to have a feeling of being surrounded by individuals. As he is social, he wanted someone to share his intellectual information with. For that, he invented language. He knew that, his skill of communication satisfies his need of sharing intellectual aspects of his personality with people. Do we all think the same way, according to above statement? No. Even if we all are humans, we are all different. Because, we have grown up carrying some thought process and we have different background.

    

    Some people are introverts, some are extroverts. As we all know, extroverts are the individuals who feel very comfortable when it comes to sharing their thoughts and ideas with the people. Exactly opposite to this happens with introverts. It doesn’t mean that they are antisocial species. They are neither from another planet nor do they like to express much. They are the individuals, who like to keep it personal. They are the ones who are comfortable with a few people around them. Being an introvert, you have to face as many hurdles as you face while solving mathematical equations.

    In personal life, there are people who actually know you and don’t misunderstand your silence. But when it comes to your professional life, you have to talk as you all sail in the same boat. If you carry your introvert nature in your professional life, it can affect your career in a long run.

To overcome this situation, one needs to follow some rules:

• Talk often  to the people you are comfortable with
• Create your own network of people
• Try not to avoid people
• Try to talk to strangers
• If you cannot gel with people easily, be a formal communicator
• Understand the fact that communication is the bridge to reach the desired goal in business
• Even if you don’t like communicating with people, make sure that you don’t sound arrogant
• It is the tool to understand the person
• As an introvert, understanding the person is the base of creating rapport for you

  Pros of communication:

• When you run your own business, you need to be vocal as people around you are true advertisers and marketers of your business.
• Through your communication, you can build good relationships beyond the business.
• As a businessman or business woman, you need to understand that it’s always about ‘giver’s gain’.
• Not only for business but for your personal growth as well, you should try and achieve expertise in your communication skills.
• This can definitely help you. You cannot be extrovert overnight but you can take a step further in your journey!

Live like a free spirit

Human beings are nothing but the creatures who are constantly in search of happiness. They not only want happiness but they want it for lifetime. Sometimes one question equips my mind so much and that question is, “What does the real happiness mean?” Many of us may say that having good home, great salary job, so many assets and beautiful clothes to wear that’s what the happiness is all about!    But the great philosopher of Mind, Samarth Ramdas Swami in his 12^thshloka says that, don’t allow sorrow or the concept of sorrow to enter your mind. When you do so, you actually allow yourself to be happy.

Your mind is the source of all good as well as bad experiences in life. If you want to be happy, at first place feel happy. What does actually being happy mean? According to Samarth Ramdas Swami, being happy is realizing that happiness is definitely not body oriented. It is all about being a free spirit and enjoying the happiness by being in the body. Happiness is all about knowing that the real purpose of life is being free from all the bodily and worldly desires. It is about being in a body and still experiencing the pure happiness of being a free spirit. When you do so, you start experiencing the change in your mindset and that’s what Samarth Ramdas wants us to experience.

When you overthink about something, you start worrying a lot without any reason. Samarth asks us to leave this habit behind as this causes sadness in life. He asks us not to worry about having sadness in future life. Thinking about future too, surrounds us with sadness. This is how we could gain the real happiness in life by following the footprints of this great legendry Psychologist, Samarth Ramdas Swami!

Inculcate the co-operative behavior in your child

I was taking evening walk in the garden near my house. Wow! How awesome was the atmosphere and surrounding. I was taking walk and suddenly I saw a little girl who was helping an old lady to go to the bench to sit in the garden. She held that lady’s hand and took her to the bench, made her sit there and then was asking her if she wants water to drink. The whole incident is so simple and may seem very normal but what I saw was the compassion in that little girl’s heart for an old lady. There were many people but this little heart felt for that lady and helped her in best possible way she could.

   I came back home and was busy doing daily chores but still could not forget the incident. This incident made me think that what could be the driving force behind such an amazing mentality? How could a little individual have this sense of helping without any expectation? And then I realized that when a child grows in joint family, he or she gets to know each relation closely. That girl must belong to the joint family. Then again I went to the garden and waited for the girl. She came there to play and I got a chance to interact with her. I asked her a few questions.

   Mainly my concern was to know if she belongs to joint family or not? And surprisingly she was not from the joint family. I asked her how do you get the feeling of helping everyone around you? She said that, "once when my mom was not well, she asked for water to me and I didn’t give her. When I was ill and I needed water she gave me rather she daily does a lot of things for me and my father. My father told me this fact and then I realized I should help everyone if I want to be helped."

  I was more surprised! Seriously friends, it’s parent’s job to make children understand things by giving real life examples. You don’t need to sit with them for hours to make them understand these things and moral values. You just have to give them examples related to the things which you want them to follow. They grasp things easily. In the world of excessive stress, let’s pledge to raise a sensible citizen who can help unconditionally. This world needs more of such individuals.

Helpful guide for new moms!

Motherhood is the beautiful phase to celebrate, but it brings a lot of responsibilities with it. And motherhood with career is a ride of roller coaster. When one needs to take responsibility of career as well as of child, it becomes a bit difficult. It needs a big heart to keep your newborn at home and run for the work. It is not as easy as it seems. This lifestyle brings a lot of stress in life. To help new mothers out there, here we are giving a few tips:

•  After a few months of delivery, make sure that your child is familiar with other people at home. Let your child be with them too, so that the child gets used to their touch as well.
•  Let everyone involve in child rearing process, so that everyone at home would take care of your child as you do with the same love and affection.
•   Have faith in the people when it comes to leaving your baby with them. After all they all are your people. They too love your child as you do.
•  When you are rejoining the work, just do homework first. Sudden changes can be horrible to handle for you. Read and understand the new projects that company has taken during the time of your leaves.
•  Even if you are now a mother but you are an employee at office so, complete your tasks and responsibilities on time.
•  Be emotionally strong because postpartum depression can make you weak at times.
•  It is the great time to prove yourself and make your child feel proud in future.
•  Being a mother, you need to be a bit strong to focus on both the fronts. Career as well as home!
•  Keeping yourself healthy and positive for this is also important.
•  Positive thought process along with healthy mind and body can do wonders for you as well as for your child.
• What you think, you attract that for your child.
• Be mindful and have blissful motherhood!

Nutrition: A way to achieve mental health

Feeling low? Eat. Getting bored? Eat. Have nothing to do? Eat. Many people out there would agree with the above state of mind. In all, eating is the only solution of every problem that is what the most of us think. But do you know one thing that food doesn’t only make our mood better but it affects our mental health for all good. Rather we can say that what we eat has an extraordinary impact on our mental health. The quality of food that we eat is directly connected with the quality of our mental health.

   Binge eating, unhygienic food, street food would definitely not contribute in developing your positive personality. If you want to have an optimistic personality, then you need to increase the intake of nutritional food. You need to look into the details of how the food has been cooked and what are the ingredients it includes. I truly believe that, the path towards sound mind goes through the fulfilled stomach.

    Our state of mind during the intake of food also matters when it comes to having healthy lifestyle. You need to focus on what do you want to have a healthy and positive personality, or something that you don’t really desire for? When you decide what you want, you can walk that way to achieve your goal.

    Many a times we hear our mother saying that, “Eat properly. Don’t think negative while eating and be acceptable when it comes to eating something that you don’t like.” She clearly means by that is one should be optimistic and happy while eating. It actually reflects in your personality.

   When we have poor eating habits, we definitely fail to have healthy lifestyle as well as personality. Once you have this habit of having non-nutritional food, you would not like the pure and nutritional food. You could develop obesity due to these food items and it actually affects your personality. So the basic mantra to stay healthy is, eat healthy and think positive.

 

EQ affects the quality of your leadership

EQ is the term used for the emotional quotient that we possess. It is an ability to identify your own emotions and the emotions of those around you. Now when you think of a good leader, then what picture do you have in front of your eyes? Picture of someone who takes care of their employees, understands their emotions and empathizes with them.

Basically, we all want a leader who takes care of their employees and works for them. But if you want to be a leader like that then have you ever thought through which process you need to go? Or what are those traits which you need to polish for achieving your leadership skills? There are types of leadership but today, we will talk about generalized term of leadership and skills that it requires. Let’s have a look:

Social skills: When you have social skills, you understand the importance of being around people. You understand the tricks to handle people at work and their emotions as well. You efficiently become able to manage people and the relation between your employees at work.

Soft skills: When you exactly know how to behave socially then you automatically try to build your talking skills. Because you understand the fact that you need to be soft and patient while communicating with people around you. How do you talk, walk and present yourself has the tremendous impact on first impression that you create. All these factors of your personality are covered under soft skills.

Empathy: Empathy is the factor of anyone’s personality which actually describes their ability to understand others’ emotions and easily relate to them. Empathizing is the ability to relate ourselves with others and make them comfortable. This quality of yours can make others believe in your abilities and they can have the faith in you.

Managing people: It is very true that achieving something is easier than managing people when you are the leader. And another angle of this story is that you need to manage people well to achieve more. It takes a lot of guts to keep people doing what they do patiently and utilize their abilities for organizational betterment.

These four factors make you the best leader and people in your organization feel free to open up about their problems in front of you. When the relation between you and other employees is smooth, they follow your words and your organization does progress.

Child development: A big step towards nation building

Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru rightly said that, "The children of today will make the India of tomorrow. The way we bring them up will determine the future of the country". What made him say so? His trust in the creative young minds. He trusted the creative aspect of our next generation. On this children’s day, we need to make sure that we are giving equal opportunities to our children irrespective of their gender. We are the strongest country of the world in reference with our creativity and skills.

What are the things that we need to take care of? There are many aspects of the child’s personality. Child is like mud, we need to shape him or her in order to make the beautiful masterpiece out of that mud. As a parent we need to understand that child development is the primary yet the most important step towards developing our nation. Child development doesn’t only affect the child’s personality and his future positively but it also affects the future of the nation.

Following are a few things which we need to practice with our children in order to make our country a better place to live for them:

• We need to inculcate the sense of responsibility in our child towards our nation.
•  We need to reflect the same responsible behavior through our personality for them to learn easily.
•  Taking small steps like keeping our country clean, providing basic facilities to each and everyone can make a big difference.
•  We need to respect the skills and abilities of every individual. It contributes a lot in the development of our country.
•  We need to inculcate nationalism in them in order to make them believe in the strength of our country and the strength which lies in our diversity.
• We need to respect the innovative ideas that they possess and need to boost them to have the same passion for innovation throughout their life.
• We need to have strong educational base in order to keep every individual at the same level.
• We need to teach our children that creating better India is our responsibility and it needs to be from our end when it comes to developing our own country.
• What we do today will define our tomorrow. Make our new generation believe in it.

Do you communicate with your child?

                                  

It is very rightly said that “Don’t talk to your child.” “Talk with your child.” There is a difference. When you talk to your child he or she listens to you and leaves the topic where it has finished. When you have conversation with your child, you get to explore his or her world of imagination.

Many parents complain about toddlers talking more lately than they should. They fail to identify the real causes. Do you want to know the causes? It’s you! Yes you read it right. Science has proved that when parents engage themselves in conversing with their child, it becomes easier for child to learn language skills.

You can communicate with your child even before he or she starts talking. You should talk more about intellectual things and let your child hear them. You should engage them in the conversation by taking their name and talking with love.

What are the effects that you would see? Read on to know:

•         Your child would have amazing language skills
•         He or she would have strong vocabulary
•         He or she would have stronger memory and sharper brain
•         He or she would develop great common and sixth sense
•         He or she would have impeccable communication skills
•         He or she would have strong imagination powers
•         He or she would be able to write down their thoughts so well
•         It would be easier for them to connect with people
•        Their social abilities would be amazing
•        They would achieve more goals as they can convince others about their skills        through their communication skills
•         It would be easier for them to be friends with various languages

We have tradition of storytelling. We all must have heard stories from our granny while sleeping in the childhood. What it did with our memory? During the time of sleep, brain accepts whatever you feed it. Those stories and their morals have stayed with us and they help us taking decisions in life with ethical thought process. Keep having healthy communication with your child; it would also help you explore your child more. You would understand their likes, dislikes, their perspectives and thought process.

The art of letting go

We are human beings and have emotional base on which our life relies. We get hurt, we feel happy and express every emotion that comes our way. But have you yet experienced one thing that you find it difficult to let go the things which hurt you? Many of us must have experienced it. What do we gain when we hold on things which hurt us? We hurt ourselves more by doing so.

Sometimes to get pure happiness, we need to let go the things which hurt us. What are those things that we need to let go?  

• ·        The hurt that people give us.

  ·        Grudges that we hold. 

  ·        Negativity that others spread in our life.

  ·        The hatred we have for someone. 

  ·        The greed of wanting more than we deserve.  

  
  
  

  ·      The things which don’t contribute in our growth.

There are many things that we need to let go. But the point is how can we do so? What are the ways to achieve this state of letting go?

Acceptance is the key: When someone hurts you, you keep thinking about it and forget to let go. It creates grudge about that person in your mind and it affects your innovative thinking. Just try to accept the fact about people around you that everyone cannot be the same. It doesn’t solve all the problems but your acceptance lets you live in peace.

It’s a game of our memory: Stronger memory worsens the pain. Sometimes we need to forget things in order to be happy. We need to keep in mind only those things which are positive and it would have positive impact on our mind. When we keep in mind every possible thing, it is going to hurt us more.

Empathize with people:  People can make mistakes. You are also one of them. Sometimes they also feel bad about the wrong things they did. They also feel guilty that they hurt you. You try to step into their shoes and try to feel their mind.

It is not for them. It is for your well being. When you let go the things then you feel free. You don’t feel the negativity around you. For your well being, decide to let go! It is the art of being happy!

Punishment can never be the solution!

In many situations, parents feel that they should punish their child to make them realize the value of things and people in life. But we often fail to notice the fact that when we punish our child physically, he or she starts going away from us. He or she starts feeling that whatever he or she does it ends up in punishment and that too the physical punishment. What is the use when they feel alone when you punish them physically? When you punish them physically, it leaves them thinking that you are a bad parent.

    Then you would think that, how can one inculcate good habits in kids? The answer is here. You can behave the way you want your child to be. You can set good examples before them. You can use your words strongly. You can make them realize that, ‘when my mother says no that means no.’ But for this, you need to inculcate the feeling of being secured and cared in your child. Child should never feel that if something is being told then, it could be for keeping them away from the things they want to do.

   You could recite stories of Shravan baal, Krishna, Rama with the moral, and make them realize the fact that whatever they are being told is for their welfare. Kids are like mud. It is in your hands to develop them. It’s your responsibility as a parent to inculcate good habits in them. If you succeed in doing this, you would be a successful parent. For this, you don’t need to take help of any physical punishment. Your words and moderate actions are enough! It helps to develop better individuals for tomorrow. 

Happiness needs no reason

Happiness is the purest feeling and it is what I feel. Being happy is what turns this world into full of happiness and optimism. We all must have heard that, there is always a reason behind everything. But I genuinely believe that happiness needs no reason. Being happy is a state of mind, which never asks for any reason at all. You may think that how it can be possible? But it is really true. When you feel happy due to a particular reason, you may feel sad when that reason’s validity will expire. It is the fact that happiness with reason, comes with an expiry date. When you try to analyze small things about your life, you’d realize that there is so much to life to feel happy about.

       Happiness is nothing but the blessing to embrace. Why am I addressing it as a blessing? Because, happiness increases when distributed or shared. And the thing which never decreases in amount or quantity rather it increases in quality even if it is shared, then it should be a purest form of blessing. Knowledge, love, friendship, understanding, care are some of the examples of blessings. When we embrace these, we actually are happy throughout life.

      Never think of the reason to be happy. When you feel happy without any reason, that happiness is pure and long lasting. This kind of happiness takes you closer to the God and divinity. And feeling the essence of divinity through spreading happiness is what the true meaning of life is all about. Where this happiness can be found? It can be found in eternal things. You need to look inside and you would realize the real meaning of happiness. Everything is within us. We need to pay attention and embrace what we have.  

Are you mentally ready for a child?

Every couple wants to start their family. Everyone wants to have someone who is their symbol of love. Child brings so much of optimism and happiness, one needs to be prepared for that. Financial stability is also important but, one needs to be mentally prepared for their child. It was considered that women are always mentally prepared to be a mom and men take things slowly when it comes to having own baby or planning for it. While keeping the present scenario of the society into consideration, one can have a clear idea about how women also struggle a lot, when they encounter with the fact that they need to think about extension of their family.

       In the world full of competition and expectations, women are also in the race of proving the self-worth. Career, family and additional responsibilities drain their energy and leave them unhappy and tired. If you are newly married these issues drain your energy a lot as your family members want you to be mom when you are more focused towards your career. Before taking any decision regarding child, please consider following things carefully! Ask yourself some questions before taking this important decision of your life:

• Am I ready to take this new responsibility?
•  Am I ready to keep my career aside for some time for the sake of my newborn?
•  Is there anyone, who will take care of my newborn if I get back to work after delivery?
•  What is my partner’s state of mind?
•  Would I be able to give my best to my child?
•   Is my family environment healthy at this point of time? To accept that newborn?
•  Do we have (you and your partner) enough finances to survive even if I take a maternity break?
•  What do my physical conditions say at this point?

Mind: The root cause of our feelings

Human mind is the world in itself. It is the world of thoughts. It is the world of feelings. It is the world of productivity. It is very thoughtful. Samartha Ramdas Swami also knew this fact and hence he asks mind that you are the root cause of whatever comes your way, may it be happiness or sadness. Life is like a roller coaster ride. There would be happy moments and definitely there would be sad moments. As the mind knows everything about us and our feelings, so Samartha Ramdas Swami asks mind in his 11^th Shloka that you search yourself who is the happiest and doesn’t have any sorrow in their life in this whole world? If you find one, then feel bad for having troubles and sorrow in life.  Samartha tries to make the mind understand this fact that you cannot hope for the happiness always.

        Further in the Shloka, Samartha asks mind that whatever you did in past is the source of whatever you are facing right now. Samartha tries to make the mind understand that you are the part of that Parmatma, you have an ability to pursue what you want. As we say in Marathi, “मन करा रे प्रसन्न, सर्व सिद्धीचे कारण!” When you have sound mind, you are the happiest person in the world. Because when you have sound mind, you become able to do whatever you want with creative thoughts and ideas. Your mind is the root cause of everything that you face in life.

         It is similar to whatever you sow, that will grow! So, through this Shloka, Samartha asks mind to keep its Karma pure and it’ll have sweet fruits in future. Samartha tries to tell mind that don’t just expect to have happiness in life, do some good deeds to claim that happiness. Whenever good things you do in life, you’d feel more happy and satisfied. That happiness doesn’t belong to the worldly desires and expectations; here he means by happiness is something which we gain after giving something back to the world around us. These sanskaras play very important role in nurturing our mind. When our mind gets nurtured, there is no force out there which can stop you from achieving the desired goal.

 

Overthinking can be harmful

Human mind is a tool that makes human ‘think’, ‘feel’ and ‘act’. We humans are blessed with various capabilities and those include the given above. We often don’t even realize what we have in our hands and that’s why we don’t value whatever we have. Since our childhood we have been listening that excess of anything is waste!

   This is not just a good thought to be written on blackboard in a classroom. It is applicable to everything in life. May it be love, care, worry or thoughts, when you do in excess amount, you automatically add an ‘over’ to it, which makes these beautiful feelings look ugly.  Today we would discuss about the habit of ‘overthinking’. Overthinking is always about anything that we could not control.

   Sensitive people are expert in this art. Why am I saying this? Because, they have a habit of taking everything right to the heart. Words that they hear, they hear them from heart! Their heart performs various functions. Sometimes it performs the function of hearing, sometimes it performs the function of caring and so on. This burdens their heart in many ways and they feel sad for the actions and words people use for them.

   Everyone in this world is unique and everyone doesn’t have same thought process. Over thinking, over caring and over loving can cause trouble to many people. Most importantly, it is troublesome for the person himself. Overthinking can never help you to solve the problem, it can only tire your mind. This way your mind cannot be able to think about new ideas, imaginations and anything that is new and happening. If you want to be a person with innovative ideas and imaginations, if you want to be happy then quit overthinking and start being positive!

Importance of having teacher in life

Life itself is a teacher which keeps teaching us about various things. Sometimes we pay attention and sometimes we forget to do so. But to make us aware about life’s uncertainty we need someone’s experiences to guide us. That work is done by the teacher. Teacher is someone who guides us in difficult situations and offers us strength to deal with the difficulties in life. Our continuous efforts cannot do anything if we don’t have any guiding force behind us.

     On the darker way of life, we need someone to bear torch for us to show us the right path. When we get confused, there is always someone who makes us think about finding the solution and that is our guru or teacher. When we fail even after his teachings, it’s he who tries to boost us for our future endeavors. And for this, it’s not necessary to have him around us physically. Teacher’s teachings play the role of his soul to guide us in difficult situations.

A mother, a friend, philosopher, guide and what not? Teachers play each and every role in our life and make our life heaven. Rather I would say that, everyone we meet in life has something to teach us. Knowledge is not just limited to academics, real life incidences teach us to be better person day by day. All those people play the role of teachers in our life.

     If we were a bird, knowledge plays the role of wings. Teacher offers us those wings to fly high. So, the importance of teacher in life cannot be compared at all. On this occasion of teacher’s day, we thank every teacher out there for their contribution of developing new generation and strong nation!

Make your child ready for the real world

Parenting is the greatest blessing in the whole world. As child enters our life, our perspective of seeing things changes and we become a better person. As a parent, everyone wants to be the perfect guardian of their child. They want to give each and everything which their child wants from them and why not, they want their child to be the happiest one in the whole world. But does it really work in the long run? No. There are parents who bring their children in the garden but they don’t let them play because, they don’t want them to be injured while playing. In this case, we could clearly see that they are being extremely over-protective. Any sensible mind could shatter while thinking about these children’s future.

You must be thinking that what’s wrong in protecting our child? There is nothing wrong if you are protecting them for the right reason. If you are protecting your child from the little things like injuries while playing, fights with friends then you are keeping them away from the real life experiences. No one is telling you to put them into troublesome situations to have experiences but at least let them decide what and how it feels when they fall, when they fail and when they succeed. It’s not always about their safety, sometimes it’s about their experiences, their views, their perspectives about things. These little things help to develop their personality.

There is this fact, which every parent should keep in mind that some or the other day, your child is going to be an independent individual and he or she has to face the real world. If you keep them away from these experiences, it will harm them in future. Just imagine, when they will face something in the future like failure or heartbreak, they wouldn’t be able to understand how to react or how to handle themselves, just because they would be totally dependent on you. Because you were the one in every situation who guided them and they didn’t have to do anything for that. So, please don’t make them face this in the future. Don’t be their weakness! Be their strength! Make them ready for the real world.

Change your perspectives and be you!

                                           

Our perspective matters a lot. You will feel that how much I try to see things perfectly, if things are not the same way, there can’t be any difference. Let me tell you a positive thing about life. Life is not at all easy; you need to convince your life that, “you are the way I see you.” What is so positive in it? Life will automatically show you some things negative but due to your positive perspective, you would find it easier and greater. Things around you don’t really change often but there is one thing that can be in your favor and that is your spirit, your perspective. How you see doesn’t change the way things work out around you. But it definitely changes the way things affect you.

    How can you achieve this stage in life? Is it possible? The answer is when you decide to be yourself at any given point of time, and in every situation, you can definitely do it. It has always been told that, “Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder”. When we decide to see the world through our own glasses, we find it so easy to deal with the uncertainties of life. When we see everything negative around, we should clean our glasses. Then we develop our own vision to see the world. We develop our own perspective to acknowledge things.

     No one’s life is perfect. Everyone has their own struggle. We need to understand our own way of doing things; we need to understand our own way of sorting things out. Everyone has their own style of reacting to the situations. Don’t copy anyone, accept yourself and apply your rules. You know your challenges well and you actually know how to solve them. Be calm and be you!

Feel happy to be happy

No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we achieve, we can never guarantee that happiness will arrive at our door. Without being happy, one cannot survive. Happiness is a feeling which fills our life with optimism. Happiness has a lot of strength which makes us feel confident. Everyone in this world does a lot of things to find happiness. Happiness is not about only things and people around us. It is an innate feeling, which keeps us going ahead in life.

     If everyone wants to be happy and does a lot of hard-work for that, then why don’t everyone be happy at the end? Many successful people also sometimes can’t find happiness, despite of having all the money, success and worldly things around them. Why does it happen? Because, they don’t feel that happiness within them. They can actually find it in the core of their soul. Being able to find self, is the way to find happiness in life.

   Happiness is a connection between you and your soul. When you find the core of your soul, you find happiness! There are a few ways to get connected with your soul, like meditation, self-talk, doing things to make others happy, spreading smile and doing things which are creative in nature. No one has ever achieved anything great by being sad, but the people who are happy, achieve self-satisfaction! Happiness is an option! Being happy is a choice and we know, you would make wiser choices in life!

Go slowly but surely

We have a special habit. Yes every one of us has the special habit of wanting our work to be done faster. We want to finish the work we have, and see the output very soon. Many of us consider it as a good habit. But do you know one thing or do you ever think about it that doing things faster can never be the aim. ‘Doing things properly should be the one.’

    Take an example of a child, who recently has learnt to walk. He tries to walk faster in an excitement to reach to the corner where his parents are standing. What makes him do so? His excitement of reaching the destination. So he walks faster and falls down. The same thing happens with us, when we try to reach the destination so eagerly, we fail in between the process itself.

What one should do to be sure about successful journey of achieving goal?

•         Trust your efforts
•          Manage things wisely
•          Be perfect
•          Improve yourself
•         Concentrate on efforts instead of speed
•          Be sure about your decision
•          Always remember that there is never turning back from the path of success
•         Your creativity is your weapon in this battle of achieving your goal
•          Be firm enough to accept things, may it be success or failure
•         Take responsibility of your actions
•         While going surely, make sure that it’s not getting too late
•       ‘This will definitely turn out to be the best’ should be your thought process
•          Prepare yourself for the journey because perfection needs patience

It’s always the matter of being free!

   Freedom is such aspect of life, which everyone wants to have. If freedom were related to not being in the prison, most of us were free. Freedom, its meaning varies from person to person. We need to understand one thing that, freedom is actually the state of mind. The late legendary freedom fighter, Lokmanya Bal Gangadhar Tilak had his thoughts clear about having freedom. For him, it was his birth right. Today, on the occasion of his 98^th death anniversary, let’s talk about freedom.

  William James was an American Philosopher and Psychologist, he used to think about freedom through spiritual spectrum. For him walking on the path of spirituality and behaving as per God’s will was the true freedom of mind. Today, even if we are physically free, we find our mind in the prison of insecurities, fears, ego, greed and negativity. 

 We find our mind surrounded by all the negative emotions which become the reason of having lack of creativity. How can we attain this freedom? How can we be free from this prison? The answer is so easy! We can do it by self analyzing things around us. It is all inside our mind.

          Self-control

           Self Observation

          Self Analysis                                                                                                                                        

       The above three factors can help us a lot in the journey of making our mind free from this prison. By implementing this, one can enjoy the true freedom in life. 

Discretion: A way to be closer to divinity

Literature of Samartha Ramdas Swami deals with the Philosophy through real life incidences. It is all about attaining spiritual goal by keeping balance between your life and your thoughts. Samartha Ramdas Swami backs the principle which tells about keeping balance between thoughts and actions. “बोले तैसा चाले, त्याची वंदावी पाऊले.” This is what we usually say in Marathi. In his 10^thshloka, Samartha guides mind to love Shree Ramachandra so much that it should become your habit. He asks mind to leave all the pleasures and desires of life behind and keep going ahead on the path of Shree Rama.

   Whatever sorrows we have in life, we shouldn’t feel bad for having them. These sorrows make us remind our God. So one should feel good for having problems in life, because when we have problems, those problems remind us of our aim. These problems encourage us to try more to achieve our goal. Our real life goal is that divine power. Whenever problems we have in the path of attaining our real life goal, just make our mind remind that whatever happening is for the betterment only. These problems work as a medium to continuously remind us of our aim. In the same way, problems in spiritual life are disturbance, lack of concentration, desires, selfishness and many more and these problems make us remind that we are being distracted and our real aim is Prabhu Shree Ramchandra, who is Aatma, Aatmaram, Parmatma and the divine power.

  When would our mind be able to attain this understanding? When would it be able to walk the path of divinity? It would behave the way we want when it would practice discretion that is “Vivek”. Discretion is the ability to behave in such a way, that no one would get offended. It is the ability to behave and talk in a polite manner. When we attain this ability, we would definitely be closer to the God. Because, here God or aim means what we want to achieve in life. When we have the quality of politeness, this quality would take us closer to the people around us and it would help us to achieve our aim. Samartha asks us to adopt that discretion and live life according to that. He asks us to keep in mind the importance of discretion and make it a part of our lifestyle. 

Recipe for successful relationship

If you ask any cook that what is the recipe of any particular dish, he or she would tell you the exact ingredients needed for that recipe. There are a few ingredients which make that recipe worth eating. Do you know that there are a few ingredients which should be added in relationship to make the recipe of relationship tasty? Which are those ingredients? Read on to know:

Trust: When you are in love with the person, over the years you realize that trust is very important in relationship. It is the glue which keeps you attached with the purpose of you being in a relationship.

Understanding: Love is not complete without understanding. Understanding is like salt in the recipe of relationship. When you have mutual understanding, you try and adjust with the odds of life without misunderstanding the person you love.

Commitment: Many people get confused when it comes to relation and commitment. You need to be committed with each other. When you are committed, you don’t need to be worried about what if the person cheats on you. Commitment brings a lot of responsibilities and it makes you a better person.

Growing together: Relationship is meant for the positivity, growth and love. If it doesn’t let you grow, it is not made for you. When your partner helps you grow in your field of work as well as in life, it is the best relationship for you.

Respect: One needs to have respect for each other. Giving respect to your partner makes them feel appreciated and noticed. Respecting your partner gives them sense of equality, which makes the relationship happier and easier!