Are you mentally ready for a child?

Every couple wants to start their family. Everyone wants to have someone who is their symbol of love. Child brings so much of optimism and happiness, one needs to be prepared for that. Financial stability is also important but, one needs to be mentally prepared for their child. It was considered that women are always mentally prepared to be a mom and men take things slowly when it comes to having own baby or planning for it. While keeping the present scenario of the society into consideration, one can have a clear idea about how women also struggle a lot, when they encounter with the fact that they need to think about extension of their family.

       In the world full of competition and expectations, women are also in the race of proving the self-worth. Career, family and additional responsibilities drain their energy and leave them unhappy and tired. If you are newly married these issues drain your energy a lot as your family members want you to be mom when you are more focused towards your career. Before taking any decision regarding child, please consider following things carefully! Ask yourself some questions before taking this important decision of your life:

• Am I ready to take this new responsibility?
•  Am I ready to keep my career aside for some time for the sake of my newborn?
•  Is there anyone, who will take care of my newborn if I get back to work after delivery?
•  What is my partner’s state of mind?
•  Would I be able to give my best to my child?
•   Is my family environment healthy at this point of time? To accept that newborn?
•  Do we have (you and your partner) enough finances to survive even if I take a maternity break?
•  What do my physical conditions say at this point?

Mind: The root cause of our feelings

Human mind is the world in itself. It is the world of thoughts. It is the world of feelings. It is the world of productivity. It is very thoughtful. Samartha Ramdas Swami also knew this fact and hence he asks mind that you are the root cause of whatever comes your way, may it be happiness or sadness. Life is like a roller coaster ride. There would be happy moments and definitely there would be sad moments. As the mind knows everything about us and our feelings, so Samartha Ramdas Swami asks mind in his 11^th Shloka that you search yourself who is the happiest and doesn’t have any sorrow in their life in this whole world? If you find one, then feel bad for having troubles and sorrow in life.  Samartha tries to make the mind understand this fact that you cannot hope for the happiness always.

        Further in the Shloka, Samartha asks mind that whatever you did in past is the source of whatever you are facing right now. Samartha tries to make the mind understand that you are the part of that Parmatma, you have an ability to pursue what you want. As we say in Marathi, “मन करा रे प्रसन्न, सर्व सिद्धीचे कारण!” When you have sound mind, you are the happiest person in the world. Because when you have sound mind, you become able to do whatever you want with creative thoughts and ideas. Your mind is the root cause of everything that you face in life.

         It is similar to whatever you sow, that will grow! So, through this Shloka, Samartha asks mind to keep its Karma pure and it’ll have sweet fruits in future. Samartha tries to tell mind that don’t just expect to have happiness in life, do some good deeds to claim that happiness. Whenever good things you do in life, you’d feel more happy and satisfied. That happiness doesn’t belong to the worldly desires and expectations; here he means by happiness is something which we gain after giving something back to the world around us. These sanskaras play very important role in nurturing our mind. When our mind gets nurtured, there is no force out there which can stop you from achieving the desired goal.

 

Overthinking can be harmful

Human mind is a tool that makes human ‘think’, ‘feel’ and ‘act’. We humans are blessed with various capabilities and those include the given above. We often don’t even realize what we have in our hands and that’s why we don’t value whatever we have. Since our childhood we have been listening that excess of anything is waste!

   This is not just a good thought to be written on blackboard in a classroom. It is applicable to everything in life. May it be love, care, worry or thoughts, when you do in excess amount, you automatically add an ‘over’ to it, which makes these beautiful feelings look ugly.  Today we would discuss about the habit of ‘overthinking’. Overthinking is always about anything that we could not control.

   Sensitive people are expert in this art. Why am I saying this? Because, they have a habit of taking everything right to the heart. Words that they hear, they hear them from heart! Their heart performs various functions. Sometimes it performs the function of hearing, sometimes it performs the function of caring and so on. This burdens their heart in many ways and they feel sad for the actions and words people use for them.

   Everyone in this world is unique and everyone doesn’t have same thought process. Over thinking, over caring and over loving can cause trouble to many people. Most importantly, it is troublesome for the person himself. Overthinking can never help you to solve the problem, it can only tire your mind. This way your mind cannot be able to think about new ideas, imaginations and anything that is new and happening. If you want to be a person with innovative ideas and imaginations, if you want to be happy then quit overthinking and start being positive!

Importance of having teacher in life

Life itself is a teacher which keeps teaching us about various things. Sometimes we pay attention and sometimes we forget to do so. But to make us aware about life’s uncertainty we need someone’s experiences to guide us. That work is done by the teacher. Teacher is someone who guides us in difficult situations and offers us strength to deal with the difficulties in life. Our continuous efforts cannot do anything if we don’t have any guiding force behind us.

     On the darker way of life, we need someone to bear torch for us to show us the right path. When we get confused, there is always someone who makes us think about finding the solution and that is our guru or teacher. When we fail even after his teachings, it’s he who tries to boost us for our future endeavors. And for this, it’s not necessary to have him around us physically. Teacher’s teachings play the role of his soul to guide us in difficult situations.

A mother, a friend, philosopher, guide and what not? Teachers play each and every role in our life and make our life heaven. Rather I would say that, everyone we meet in life has something to teach us. Knowledge is not just limited to academics, real life incidences teach us to be better person day by day. All those people play the role of teachers in our life.

     If we were a bird, knowledge plays the role of wings. Teacher offers us those wings to fly high. So, the importance of teacher in life cannot be compared at all. On this occasion of teacher’s day, we thank every teacher out there for their contribution of developing new generation and strong nation!