Throughout the age of #adolescence, we often dream about what life would
be like in our 20’s. Just the idea of staying up late with no obligation to
anybody, got us rolled over to fast forward even more to “that” day.
When finally the D-Day arrived, we were out on our own! The rent,
renters, utilities, insurance, groceries, gas, car insurance, doctor visits
turned out to be more than just names, starring right on our faces. We did not
have this in mind all those years when we kept planning our beloved 20’s.
Bet you have texted your parents: “#adultingishard. The pressure is too
much. What happened to my paycheck?” You must have seen “adulting is hard” all
over the social media platforms:
1. Adulting is hard. No reward when I make my bedroom tidy.
2. Chai, because adulting is hard.
3. I stay up late for no reason. Adulting is hard.
Author of #EmergingAdulthood Jeffrey Jensen Arnett says, this young
adult is never alone. All of us find #adulting in our 20’s difficult, creating
a bit of anxiety for our parents who are ever-ready for us to take on more
responsibilities. 30 has become the new 20 folks! A period where exploration
and instability hits the trends, to try out all kinds of things before we
settle down.
Parents who are
eagerly waiting for their young adults to launch a rocket wonder, “What
happened?”
But things have changed, our time has evolved! Years ago #adulthood
caught sight as a big achievement. People craved for the stability this phase
provided. 50 years later? It has become a stagnation. A generation full of
wonder, we are composed of contradictions of light and darkness mixed.
Are you still
reading further and freaking out? Breathe! Since we are a spontaneous
generation, we eventually gain control over our routine but just a bit later
than expected.
Reason being why early 20’s are overwhelming is because we go from
having spoon-fed everything to feeling all alone while we manage to pick the
adult routine. Moreover, we are so hungover from our college adventures that we
tend to complicate life after that. The ones in their early 20’s can easily
testify that adulting is hard, but it also comes with a payback of freedom,
adventures and challenges.
Working against human nature disrupts human emotions. We tend to always
focus on the shiny thing that is in front of us, so adulting for us often means
taking the long view for a long run: saving for retirement, taking vitamins,
doing cardio but again, as the name insinuates it also simplifies the process
of growing up!
“Adulting strikes the minute one trades dependence for independence and
self-centeredness for community.”
From the school bench to the college dorm room, we are all trying to
figure out our passion to life but once you realize that not everything has to
be a solved puzzle right away, the mental paralysis retires. Uncertainty drives
anxiety. Graduation is the time of life with greatest indecision: Will I have a
stable career? Will I find a right partner? When? Who? Where will I live? Which
of my friendships will survive the transition? Well guess what:
“Uncertainty leaves us with either of the two options; we increase our
certainty or we get better at accepting our uncertainty. Adulting requires
both.”
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