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Learn the art of forgiving!

Life is a beautiful journey. We meet many people in our life and we feel that everyone should behave sweetly with us. But there is this fact that we need to understand that everyone can’t be the way you want them to be. Every person in your life is different and you should learn to accept everyone’s individuality. You may find some of them funny, some of them happy and some of them very serious. As you cannot expect everyone to be same, the same way you cannot expect everyone to be nice with you.

When someone does harm to you and leaves you in pain, it’s your responsibility to take care of your emotions and forgive them. You may feel why am I saying this? Forgiving can’t be that easy but you need to understand the fact that forgiving is the only way out when it comes to the fact that holding grudges and hating the people around you is not what gives you the peace of mind which forgiving may give. It has long term effect on your mind when you decide to hold on the grudge and keep living life.

How this art of forgiving can be achieved? Here are some easy ways to do it.

•          Treat the person, the way you want to be treated.
•          Understand the fact that something or the other is going to bother you about the person in front of you in some way.
•          When you live in a society, you meet various kind of people and you should have that capability within you to accept the way they are.
•          When you feel that you are being neglected, your ego says that this person is hurting you and you take it personally. Instead of taking it personally, you should tell yourself that, “This person needs to be given his or her space.”
•         If you find something is bothering you about anyone, you should just go and have clear conversation with that particular person.
•          When you have things clear in front of you, you get to do a lot in life. But if you keep the grudges in heart, there is no way to happy life.
•          Even if the person or the situation hurts you, it’s only you who is giving that person or a situation a chance to hurt you.
•         Feed your mind with the thoughts like “Only I am responsible for the happiness and sadness that I am facing in my life. I would never give anyone permission to control my moods or emotions. If someone or something hurts me, I am capable enough to let go the grudges and forgive that person because that’s the way I see my life. I allow myself to be happy in life.”